Feb. 10th, 2003 02:16 am

I'm sorry

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I know I have been blessed with some unusual talents. I know I can't use them very well. But, how am I going to get any better if I can't at least watch others use theirs??

Then again, I think the thing that gets me the most is when I'm told that I can't do something because I'm lacking - a certain skill, a certain control, etc. At least give me the chance to learn or explore it on my own.

Then again, the heart of the matter is that I really really hate being told I can't do something period. It's the youngest child in me, I know it. Being the youngest of three and the only girl to boot meant that I got my way - a lot. And it really rankles me when someone tells me "No, you can't do something." I just wish more people, when saying no, would explain why they were saying no. It would make things easier, IMHO.

So, with that part of my soul admitted, I'm sorry I yelled at Mack when we were online a few minutes ago. Call it my kitten claw defense.

What I'm afraid of is that every time I do protest like that, I'll be thought of as being immature. I've done a lot of growing up in the past six and a half months. Being out of school and away from your friends will do that to you. Just when I think I'm getting things right, my kitten claws strike again. ::sigh::

Maybe I'll get it right one day.
Feb. 6th, 2003 07:45 pm

All Wet

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I was involved in a debate last night that talked about politics and religion. Explosive subjects, eh? Well, while in the middle of the convearticipants, a 17-year-old, begins patronizing one of my very best friends (not a way to get on my good side.) My friend gets mad, understandably and so do I. Why? Because Lelu was treating Ely as if she was six years old, not five years older than her.

There is a certain maturity that comes with age. You don't act the same when you're 17, 22, 27 or 32. Yes, Lelu may act more mature for her age, but she doesn't have the right to tell Ely that she acts more mature than Ely does.

I really and truly admire Ely. Right now, she's on a rough job search and is getting married. Marriage is something that is truly daunting and requires a great deal of maturity. I've known Ely for two and a half years now. Just in the past 12 months alone, I've seen her mature so much that I can't even describe it. To sit and read a mere high schooler claim that she is more mature than a college-educated engaged woman is pure crap.

Yes, you can act mature for your age when you're in high school. I have no doubts about that. You can also act very childish for your age and be 30. A certain amount of maturity comes from age simply because you have experienced more of life. Take for instance Mack, who I know will read this ;-) Mack is older than I am, and he's more mature in ways. He's got his master's degree and is going for a law degree. He's been around people longer and knows what the real world is like. That is a maturity that comes with age. He knows things about life that I don't because he is in his late 20s and I am in my early 20s. Just as I know things about life that Lelu doesn't because I'm 22 and she's 17.

You can't go around and stick your nose up in the air and go "I am more mature than you, so THERE!", which was pretty much the gist of what I interpreted. That's proof then that you are NOT mature. Maturity isn't something that you flaunt. It is something that is quiet and other people notice without having to fling it into your face. If you feel the need to do so, then you have a lot more maturing to do.


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